Cybersex email

One of the most common questions in my e-mail is some variation on this: "How do I find women to have cybersex with? It's a good question. People still seem to believe the internet is full of millions of lonely, socially inept dweebs desperately masturbating with other lonely, socially inept dweebs pretending to be porn stars. I suppose I can't blame them.

This was a kind of postcard equivalent I took at face value. They were pretty standard: one was a beach view and the other was of me standing on the deck of a boat in a T-shirt and shorts. There was nothing suggestive about either. They were holiday-happy moments to give a sense of how much I loved where I was. I was completely thrown. Still, I found myself thinking it best to be light-hearted in my initial response. We needed to see first if we entertained each other on screen or phone and then, based on that, to decide whether to meet.

Cybersex can lead to a 21st century form of addiction which threatens relationships, writes Nuala Macklin. In the s with the predictions relating to the internet becoming mainstream, the potential effects of virtual pornography were somewhat miscalculated. Feminists of the day warned it would unleash a wave of unprecedented sexual violence against women. While this forecast might not be completely off the mark, the insidious and destructive effects of cybersex on human relationships are taking a toll. A conference in Dublin next weekend examines the extent of a growing problem.