Ever wondered how a sex coach decides to make sex their job? Athena Mae found her unlikely calling as a teenager, when friends came to her with their questions. Then she started teaching body-positive sex education. This is what 20 years of shedding myths about sex and body size has taught her.
Originally published on Persephone Magazine. Please note: Fat sex is a very big issue heh. Because my area of expertise is limited to sex with size difference as a woman with a vagina, I chose not to explore other areas of fat sex, such as the mechanics of two fat people having sex or trans fat sex for women without vaginas. I welcome all here with that experience to speak up and contribute if they feel comfortable. Sometimes that made me feel more at ease, but mostly it became tedious, distracted me from feeling sexy, and annoyed the crap out of my partner who just wanted to see his hot girlfriend naked.
The king-size bed is inset into a floor-to-ceiling window. The room is lit from below and everything glows warm. Our Nikes are on the floor next to our clothes. All black. I hear the water running and watch as he washes me off his hands and rinses me from his mouth.
I always wanted to know what it was like for my former partners all men to exist within their bodies. They stood up so tall, carried themselves with such ease. They could emerge naked from the shower and stand in front of the mirror with no self-consciousness.